Recently, I saw a post, on my Facebook wall, that had the tagline #truth. It struck me as odd, because it was a pretty passive aggressive and slightly rude…however this is what this person wanted to call their “truth”…
It made me think about the word “truth” and what it means to me…
#truth: my friends & family
I will always put the needs and best interests of my kids first. Some may call me a “slave to a schedule” but what I have learned (and what has been proven by people with actual medical degrees and a lot of other degrees attached to their name…) is that kids thrive with a schedule, structure and SLEEP! I refuse to jeopardize their health, well being or my sanity to have them attend a birthday party, etc. I can put up with the eye rolls, the judgement, the talking behind my back because I am an adult…and usually those comments are coming from people who still have a whole lotta growing up to do!
When it comes to my family, I am fiercely loyal. Also, family is not just those that I share DNA with. Having lived away from my parents and brother for 12 years, I learned that family is also those friends that become closer to you than the word “friend” quantifies them for. One of my dear friends, Robyn, once told me that when it came to my friends, I was like a Momma bear and when someone messed with one of my “cubs” the claws came out…and you did not want to be on the other side of that paw. I took that as one of the highest compliments ever.
I am truly blessed to have the people in my life that I call friends and while life and travel has taken me from one end of this country and back to Thunder Bay again, and it’s hard to leave friends behind…I know that in every sense of the word they are still beside me.
#truth: Mommy wars
As stated above, I love my kids and Evan and I have chosen to raise them a certain way. So far it’s working well for us. Although we are about to have a “threenager” in the house, so I will keep you posted. However, our way of life is not for everyone…AND THAT’S OK! I didn’t realize that there was so much judgement in the “mommy” world until more recently. I had no idea that in a community that is bonded by such a special reason (our kids) would be so f’ing brutal with each other.
Don’t want to breastfeed. Knock yourself out. I have breastfed and used formula and my kids are ok.
Don’t want to let your kids cry it out. Awesome. We sleep trained Audrey and plan to soon with Ben.
Prefer to wear your baby than push them in a stroller. I am a recent baby wearing convert and love my Ergo.
Co-sleeping, attachment, Tiger Mom? Thumbs up…whatever works for you.
What I think those that participate in Mommy wars don’t get is…we are ALL IN THE WEEDS…why not just smile and offer each other a high five, a hug or maybe a glass of wine. Anyone who thinks that they can do this better than someone else is doomed to be alone…and from my experience, other Mom’s are allies that you not only want…you NEED!
The one caveat that I will add to this is about immunizations. To me…there is NO excuse for not getting your child immunized and I will judge you and keep my children away from you….this meme says it all…
I like to sweat. I like to run and workout. I have done some of my best thinking, writing and problem solving while sweat is stinging my eyes. I workout because I like the way I feel after (runners high ls real!) and I also workout because I refuse to stop drinking wine or eating my Mother’s baking.
#truth: my postpartum body
The recent Dove commercial, which talks about self-hate thoughts that women have about their bodies really hits home. There are very few days that I don’t look at my body and think that there is something that could be tighter, smaller/larger, less saggy, more toned, etc. I am trying my best to remind myself that this made, carried and delivered (drug free to my chagrin…) two beautiful babies. This is the body that they know and love. There is no judgement in their eyes. They crawl onto it, snuggle against it and cover me in kisses and hugs. I might not it like some days…but this body is loved.
Another friend recently posted on Facebook “life is hard. love your people harder”. Totally agree.